Well, this week about did me in. We are having some separation anxiety issues in our house. (And no....it isn't me!) I can't walk out of the room, or even sit 2 feet away. There was constant crying in our house at the beginning of the week. (And no, it wasn't all Dylan!) Since Mark was out of town, and Dylan was a lot more clingy than usual, I about had a melt down. I tried to get him to sleep in his own bed.....didn't work. He wants to be around me all the time. Don't get me wrong, I am very grateful that my beautiful son has bonded with me...but.....this is a little much. I kept thinking, man if he could crawl or walk..it would be so much easier because then he could follow me around the house. But who am I kidding...it would be bad no matter what. I am hoping this is a short phase.
I return to work on Tuesday. Needless to say, I am very nervous. I know he is going to be very upset. Thursday, I had to get out of the house! I was about to lose it. So this mama went out to dinner and to a MOVIE!!! Can you believe it? It was wonderful! It was the first time in over 2 months that I actually ate a full dinner...uninterrupted. I went with my friend Julie. We walked around the mall and then went to see Harry Potter! GREAT movie by the way. It provided much needed time away from the house.
After being away...it helped some with the clinginess. At least he will now let daddy meet his separation needs. We did a trial run with the sitter (our friend that is going to keep him) on Friday. I went to get my hair colored and cut. So he was with Ms. Kim for 3 hours. She said he did really well. (I still think she is lying.) But she said he did cry, but only for about an hour. He was just a little whiny was all. She said she expected it to be much worse. So, hopefully things will go well on Tuesday. I know it will take a bit, but hopefully he is not too upset. And hopefully I will not call "every hour"!
We went to the doctor last week, things are going well. He is very happy with Dylan's progress. He now weighs 16lbs 8 oz. I would have guessed it to be more than that. He also grew 1/2 inch. He is now 28 1/4 in long. The therapist is happy with his progress, she is still determined to have him crawl. Good luck! This boy is ready to walk. If he could gain the balance, he would be off and going. He is trying to pull up a little bit, hopefully he will be able to do that soon. I think I am ready for him to be mobile. (i know...i know...I will regret that comment) But I know part of his problem is frustration because mentally he knows he should walk and physically he can't. Wish us luck this week, I will let you know how it goes. I will leave you with some family photos we had made before the fourth! I think they turned out pretty good.
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those pictures are so cute!! Trust your sitter..they do wind down and each time it will take less and less time. I didn't believe my sitter either but it was true. So just breathe and I will get everyone at work to try to email you lots and keep you so busy you can't call to check on him :) j/k
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Oh Kim! I so remember the first time that I had to leave Owen. The thought of it just devestated me! However, it was not as bad as I anticipated. I had to mentally prepare to take him to daycare, kiss him and basically leave. I called to check on him one time and tried to keep myself so busy at school that I wouldn't have time to call. He now loves going to school! (you'll probably have to remind me that I am telling you this in a month or so:)). Good luck and keep us posted!
Going back to work is very hard. However, it will be okay and Dylan will benefit from being around other people. Love the new family pic. Amy H.
The clinginess comes and goes at our house....and we've been home with Ian for 17 months. It'll be tough on Tuesday, but it'll be fine. You'll be busy at work and Dylan really will be OK. It's just really hard those first few day. I'll be thinking about you.
Love the new family pictures. I noticed the one of the three of you on the side of your blog. You guys look so happy.
Kim:
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I know it will be a rough day for both of you.
Take care.
Have a great first day back at work. Know that God will be taking care of Dylan's needs too - not just his sitter, who I'm sure is great!
By the way, as a Mom with a husband who travels a lot, I can say from experience that ALL HARD WEEKS tend to happen when he's out of town. I don't know if it is Daddy being gone or Mommy being more tired or just bad luck, but it feels like most sicknesses, scraped knees, clingy days, and just general fussy moods happen then. Just take pride in the fact that you made it through it, let the dishes stack and the beds go unmade if necessary, and do something to take special care of you and your little one!
It just comes with the territory! Moms need to run away sometimes. I always used to feel so guilty; we love them so much, but everyone needs a little time to themselves. Don't feel guilty; you'll be a better mom for taking a little break! Best of luck back at work. Heather Murphy; Dillon Forum
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